Ahead and on time, all at once
Some children think years beyond their age and feel exactly their age, often in the same hour. They ask questions no one at the table can answer, then come apart over something no one else noticed. Neither moment means something is wrong. The parts of a child grow at different speeds, and the hard days start to make sense once you can see which part is doing the talking.
This book is for the parents of those children, whether or not anyone has ever tested them.
What the book gives you
A map, and the moves to go with it
A simple map of your child
Built a piece at a time: your child's Mind, Heart and Body; the different speeds those parts grow; how loudly each one runs; the steadiness of the adults and the home; and the wider world of friends and school. Once you can read a moment with it, the brilliant days and the hard ones stop looking like contradictions.
Practical moves for the hard moments
Each move comes with the words to try, what to watch for, and what to do if it backfires. Here is one of them.
Inside you'll find
- 15 chapters in five parts, each following one family through one kind of situation
- 51 Try This boxes, and more than 120 moves gathered in a full toolkit
- A "When This Happens, Try This" index for meltdowns, a child who won't listen, sibling fights, worries that won't go away, a lie
- 10 worksheets to fill in and print
- 24 simple diagrams that make the ideas easy to see
- Clear signs for when to talk to a pediatrician, a psychologist or the school
- A plain-words glossary
You'll learn how to
- Tell a bright child from a gifted one, and see the whole child instead of half
- Answer the youngest part of your child in a hard moment, not the cleverest
- Stay steady when your own temper is rising, and repair things when it isn't
- Get through a meltdown stage by stage, and talk about it afterward
- Make requests that land with a child who argues every point
- Shape the day so changes and bedtimes stop being battles
- Feed curiosity and loosen the grip of perfectionism
- Help with friendships, siblings, school meetings and big worries
- Hand over independence one step at a time
Free with the newsletter
Two worksheets to start with tonight
Two sheets from the book, each with enough explanation to use on its own. They come free with the weekly newsletter: subscribe, and the download link arrives in your welcome email.
The book
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Or read the free sample first: the preface and all of chapter 1
About the author
A humble father writes under this name so the book can stay about children and the people raising them. The book is written for parents who want plain explanations of fast-learning, intense children, and something useful to do tonight.
None of it requires a perfect parent. The aim is a parent who reads the moment in front of them a little more accurately each month, and comes back to repair things on the days that go badly.